SO,my father and I were talking today. He was complaining about my telephone bill( which he helps me with because I have rent to pay and I am a broke college student). He then says, and I am pretty sure he was serious, that I needed to find a husband. My dad assumes that a man will take care of his wife. I told him tradition was sadly out the drain. I was laughing about the whole situation but then I was like...that's not funny. I do honestly want a guy not a douche and getting or has his act together. Yes, i am still a huge fan of traditional dating and courtship.
where the hell did it go? Is it on the basis of how women ALLOW MEN TO TREAT US? Yes, the people whining about not having a decent man...we are to blame.we allow the men to think it's okay to treat us bad, to cheat on us. It is dumb to be like...it's okay he is doing his dirt because I am out doing my dirt. TWO WRONGS DON'T MAKE A RIGHT. AND IF YOU ARE REALLY NOT COMMITTED TO SOMEONE YOU MIGHT AS WELL HAVE THE BALLS OR THE BOOBS TO BE HONEST. It's funny how people label themselves as adults but are truly childlike in every single way other than their anatomy,go figure.
anyways back to my facebook status....SO I PUT MY STATUS AS A JOKE,BUT IT TRIGGER SOME PEOPLE TO REAL FEEL SERIOUS ABOUT IT.
my status is as follows:
um, my daddy says my next project is to find a decent husband or sugar daddy. lol. Help wanted...2 hours ago
people giving the thumbs up on the idea. I mean, I am not very old but i still want something stable, esp during a financial crisis. I mean, arranged marriages are looking very appealing these days. I just don't have the time or energy for dating anymore. I just want someone to learn to work along with me and one day we start a family.
i personally believe love is a word thrown around. So, I think i could learn to love someone if needs be it. I rather share a place with a man I am with and we both are working together to get ahead in life than rooming with 3 females who are more yap than action. This will be my status for the next year.
Sometimes, i even think about getting back with my ex just because at least we knew the good, bad and ugly of one another. I could see myself with him and just suck up the bullshit. But, eh...if we are meant to be I am sure some random shit will get us back together. Something is going to have to give though.
Btw, school is getting on my last nerve and looking for a good job. UGH....i hate how life is all about money. good grief.
when Penn and Teller said BULLSHIT. ha, they meant it. peace.
Creator of wwww.fromgirltogirl.com shares her daily life happenings and lessons!
Wednesday, April 22, 2009
Wednesday, April 8, 2009
Mission accomplished
TODAY MARKS THE DAY MY ROOMIES AND I HAVE OFFICIALLY BEEN APPROVED FOR OUR BEAUTIFUL CONDO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! THIS is the first time in awhile i had a natural smile on my face. I may not have found peace in life,but at least i will have a roof over my head and not going to dear bmore. I am here in the district to explore. Wish me luck and blessings!
now, focus on new job and school! I got this, with God's speed! <3
now, focus on new job and school! I got this, with God's speed! <3
Monday, April 6, 2009
why is marriage & relationships no longer sacred territory?
So, sifting through the little black book of my ex... i kinda am beginning to understand why he had challenges communicating with me. Here I am, highly naive and here he is vulnerable and fearful of a real relationship. When I say real relationship...i mean where sex is just sex. Sex is an expression of love. A relationship where communication is not forbidden or shunned for being honest. Someone working towards something and with you. This is what I want out of a man. Maybe I am old fashion and traditional,but I find nothing wrong with being in love with someone and knowing the person loves you back. I know tina turner had some song about love doesn't love anyone...yes, love is a bitch sometime. Yes, people seek love and love doesn't seek people...but i rather love than hate. I rather take the risk than to think about what could have, should have been.
I find it odd many of the women my ex was with have their own personal relationship problems. They have been with people's boyfriends and husbands. And everytime they talk about love they condemn it because they have never taken the time to work things out or to communicate real love. They accept that sex is all that they can get. They accept that they don't deserve any better. I am not sure if it is a New York state of mind, but women need to get a wake up call.
People treat you how you allow them to treat you. I learned this all too soon and I am glad for it. I rather speak my mind than let someone walk all over me and be afraid to love again. It's a sad and lonely life to do so. I find it desperate when someone cheats with someone else significant others because they are too selfish to care that they are ruining someone else life.
If you want to be happy and want a man to love you. Go be the best you and you'll find someone worth the time. It's a low self-esteem to want of someone elses' life style or anything. This is why I can not stand women. We are one another enemies and for what?
no good answer.
I find it so amusing some women (and their relatives) have the audacity to harsh me on my youtube and other internet websites over some guy who never cared about you anyway. The laughs on you and the fact you're a mid 20 yr old dealing with picking on a college girl over a guy who forgot about you once he left New york and prob before that....get a grip.
I love my haters because my swag and my whole persona is 10 times greater than yours. So, yes...because I know you read everything I put. Read this.
My life may not be perfect but at least I live a moral life and I am not trying to take from other people. Hope you learn before you're 30.
peace.
-Bree
To comment on the cheating with other peoples' men:
I guess when I said giving in i meant giving into the games men tend to play. I mean,why give grimy people chance after chance if they don't deserve it? old dogs can't learn new tricks. they are too stuck in their ways by then.
As for desperate...i just never understand the concept of being involved with people already involved with someone else. It's a lack of communication that makes those relationships go sour and the more people being brought into the mix doesn't improve anything for the people that label themselves in a relationship.
what's so attractive about being with a guy who already has other chicks(and maybe children) involved?
Also, another question I wonder is why do people have sex together, and share their bodies together if it is known that love isn't there?
maybe i am old fashion but i can't see myself sleeping with someone i don't care about at all. A guy i was with for about a year and a half was so use to women just sleeping with him and being done with him that he had no idea how to really deal with things that happen in relationships where sex is not just sex,but sex is an expression of love. I use to think sex was just an act until i had an encounter with someone i knew i loved and vice versa. I bring this up because he lived in New York for a bit and I wonder if it is just something learned in the New York state of mind.
I didn't know it would be so different.
But anyways, ****(person's name) you seem very interesting and I am sure a guy worth your time will come your way sooner than later. Don't settle for anything less than what you deserve.
And yes, i doubt the wife needs to hear it from you...it will only cause her more pain. She prob loves the bastard or afraid to leave him. He should man up and just go if he really isn't happy with her. Some people should never get married if they can't be happy with one genitalia . Marriage should be a sacred thing and I hate when people take it for less than that.
A friend once told me...
"usually when you're not looking the cupid arrow hits you. at least that's what happened to me. when you're happy with yourself and you love yourself you allow the universe to come to you."
However, it supposedly happens after sifting through the scum...but you'll know when you find it because you can't see yourself with anyone else. You don't want what's out there anymore.
I find it odd many of the women my ex was with have their own personal relationship problems. They have been with people's boyfriends and husbands. And everytime they talk about love they condemn it because they have never taken the time to work things out or to communicate real love. They accept that sex is all that they can get. They accept that they don't deserve any better. I am not sure if it is a New York state of mind, but women need to get a wake up call.
People treat you how you allow them to treat you. I learned this all too soon and I am glad for it. I rather speak my mind than let someone walk all over me and be afraid to love again. It's a sad and lonely life to do so. I find it desperate when someone cheats with someone else significant others because they are too selfish to care that they are ruining someone else life.
If you want to be happy and want a man to love you. Go be the best you and you'll find someone worth the time. It's a low self-esteem to want of someone elses' life style or anything. This is why I can not stand women. We are one another enemies and for what?
no good answer.
I find it so amusing some women (and their relatives) have the audacity to harsh me on my youtube and other internet websites over some guy who never cared about you anyway. The laughs on you and the fact you're a mid 20 yr old dealing with picking on a college girl over a guy who forgot about you once he left New york and prob before that....get a grip.
I love my haters because my swag and my whole persona is 10 times greater than yours. So, yes...because I know you read everything I put. Read this.
My life may not be perfect but at least I live a moral life and I am not trying to take from other people. Hope you learn before you're 30.
peace.
-Bree
To comment on the cheating with other peoples' men:
I guess when I said giving in i meant giving into the games men tend to play. I mean,why give grimy people chance after chance if they don't deserve it? old dogs can't learn new tricks. they are too stuck in their ways by then.
As for desperate...i just never understand the concept of being involved with people already involved with someone else. It's a lack of communication that makes those relationships go sour and the more people being brought into the mix doesn't improve anything for the people that label themselves in a relationship.
what's so attractive about being with a guy who already has other chicks(and maybe children) involved?
Also, another question I wonder is why do people have sex together, and share their bodies together if it is known that love isn't there?
maybe i am old fashion but i can't see myself sleeping with someone i don't care about at all. A guy i was with for about a year and a half was so use to women just sleeping with him and being done with him that he had no idea how to really deal with things that happen in relationships where sex is not just sex,but sex is an expression of love. I use to think sex was just an act until i had an encounter with someone i knew i loved and vice versa. I bring this up because he lived in New York for a bit and I wonder if it is just something learned in the New York state of mind.
I didn't know it would be so different.
But anyways, ****(person's name) you seem very interesting and I am sure a guy worth your time will come your way sooner than later. Don't settle for anything less than what you deserve.
And yes, i doubt the wife needs to hear it from you...it will only cause her more pain. She prob loves the bastard or afraid to leave him. He should man up and just go if he really isn't happy with her. Some people should never get married if they can't be happy with one genitalia . Marriage should be a sacred thing and I hate when people take it for less than that.
A friend once told me...
"usually when you're not looking the cupid arrow hits you. at least that's what happened to me. when you're happy with yourself and you love yourself you allow the universe to come to you."
However, it supposedly happens after sifting through the scum...but you'll know when you find it because you can't see yourself with anyone else. You don't want what's out there anymore.
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)